‘You’ll meet someone at Uni’, they say.
‘That’s where I met my partner’, you hear.
What if you don’t? What if you go your entire university experience without finding your perfect match?
Well then, I would say that that is completely NORMAL.
Finding the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is a great thing, but not everyone is going find that at 20 years old!
There is an unrealistic expectation for young people to find their soulmate very young.
And we’re all told that it will happen at university because we’ll be surrounded by like-minded people.
And on the flip-side, this is also the time to have fun, be single and see what is out there.
Mixed messages
People already in relationships at Uni are being told that they are still young, and should ‘enjoy it’ while they still can.
Hook-up culture is rampant and almost expected, particularly in first and second year.
So which is it?!
We can’t have it both ways at the same time.
Not everyone is going to find their life partner in one of their lectures.
At Uni, so many of us have just come out of school for the first time, living by ourselves and finally gaining some independence from our families.
We should be trying new things, discovering ourselves. Not constantly thinking whether you’re going to graduate with somebody on your arm.
There is no need to worry about the ‘who are you going to spend the rest of your life with’ question.
There is no time limit on that one.
There is a time limit on how much time you spend at university.
If you spend that entire time thinking about the fact that you’ve not met that one person yet, you’re going to miss out on a whole lot.