A few weeks ago, a friend called me out on my careless use of the phrase ‘living my best life’. I use it daily, if not hourly, often without realising. It is on my social media, in my DMs, even in my conversations. Obviously, the idea that I am ‘living my best life’ all of the time just isn’t true. This pressure to ‘live your best life’ is put on us (sometimes unintentionally!) by our peers, social media, even ourselves. This pressure makes your twenties way more terrifying than they actually are.
After recently discovering the phrase ‘post-graduate depression’, I realised that I wasn’t alone in feeling low after university. After being supported by a strict timetable and education plan for eighteen out of my twenty-two years, it was difficult to adjust to life without it. You’re suddenly alone on open road and it is SCARY, and that’s without everything else that comes in your twenties. Be gentle with yourself. Understand that you are not the only one feeling this – this feeling even has it’s own Cosmopolitan article!
For me, my early twenties (probably helped, or not, by the pandemic), was a period of finding comfort within myself. I wanted to try and find myself, as cliché as it sounds, before helping others to do the same. Although it was lonely at times (a LOT of the time), this process saw me cutting ties with people that I’d be clinging to unnecessarily. This sounds scary, but know that for me, this wasn’t an ugly experience, and it doesn’t have to be for you either. It is possible to ‘drift’ from people, and acknowledging this rather than letting it hold you back is the best way to deal with it.