Change is a scary thing, no matter how big or small the change may be. It can be positive or negative, and it can happen suddenly or it can be looming over you for a while before it actually happens. It can be hard to adjust to change, especially when it is unexpected and unwanted. While it may take some time to adjust, there are ways to help you in coping with change when it happens unexpectedly.
Try not to fight it
When change occurs, try not to fight it. This can be a difficult thing to do, particularly if the change is unwanted. However, it is important to remember that change is inevitable and it is part of growing and learning, as well as moving on to new chapters in life. Accepting that change happens will help you to prepare for it when it does actually happen.
Preparing and planning for change
If the change was an unexpected one and has been impending for a while, you have the chance to prepare ahead. Making a plan can help you to adjust to the change when it eventually happens. Just having an idea of how to adjust may help you to remain calm throughout the period of change, ultimately making it easier to make it through.
With sudden change, on the other hand, you won’t have the time to prepare and plan ahead of time. You might still find it helpful to make a plan when a sudden change happens, as this will allow you to take back some of the control over your situation.
Try to stick to your usual routine
If possible, sticking to your usual routine will help you to feel like the change may not be that drastic. It will give you some sense of consistency and familiarity, which may be useful in learning to cope with change so that only one thing changes at a time.
Have patience with yourself
It is important to treat yourself with patience and kindness during periods of change. Adjusting to change can take time, so let yourself have the space you need to come to terms with the change at hand. Forcing yourself to rush through it may mean that you bottle up your true feelings at the time. This could result in you resenting the change in the long term. So, let yourself come to terms with the change at your own pace, try not to rush yourself through it, and be patient with yourself.
Indulge in self-care
Adjusting to change can take time. While you are learning to cope with the change, you should try to find ways of looking after your physical, mental and emotional health. Maintaining a good self-care routine throughout periods of change may help you to adjust easier, and will help you in the long run with preparing for future change.
Exercising, eating healthier, staying hydrated, and getting some fresh air are all examples of good ways to stay physically healthy. Journalling, practising mindfulness, and letting yourself feel your emotions without judgement can be good ways to look after your mental and emotional health.
Talk to someone if you’re struggling to cope
If you have tried everything you can to cope with the change and nothing seems to be working, try talking to someone about it. This could be a close friend or a family member who may be able to provide some support or advice if you need it. Alternatively, if you just need to get things off your chest, texting SHOUT to 85258 or calling the Samaritans on 116 123 may be able to help you.
The takeaway message
Learning to cope with change takes time and patience. Change isn’t always pleasant, so prioritising your health and well-being can make all the difference when an unexpected change occurs. Planning ahead where possible will help you feel in control of the situation, even if the change is something that you have no control over. Most importantly, you are strong and resilient, and you will get through any changes that come your way.